Living with ADHD from a perspective of an adult
I was born with ADHD and Dyslexia. When I was at school, there was no name or medication to help me concentrate. The Labels that were attached to me were many: not trying hard enough, not good enough, you will never amount to anything, settle for less. These were just a few that drove me well into my adult life, and I am still removing more.
I like to think of my brain and children with this label as being like a Ferrari with no breaks. Our thoughts go at such a speed, that we can’t even catch up with them ourselves, and with that it brings anxiety because we can’t quieten our brains.
An example I can give you is this. My home has a long passage and I could be in my bedroom and have a task to complete which is at the end of the passage. My intentions are to do that task. As I walk, something catches my attention, so I stop and start a new thing, then realize that I got side tracked, leave that and proceed again, only to get side tracked, again. By the time I have got to the destination of my first thought and task, I have started about 5 others and not completed any of them. Then the self-talk starts and the anxiety that I have now run out of time, and I have not even completed the first task, and in my wake, I have left 5 other items half done, and my day has only begun. I know we frustrate those people we live with, but the frustration we feel about our self is even greater.
What is good for us.
- Structure: My day is planned the night before so when I wake up, there is less stress on me. I have a set time of waking up, and a routine during the day so I feel supported, also use tools which remind me of my plans made the night before. A wonderful app Mindfulness, which is a sound of a singing bowl that goes off every hour, and that reminds me to take three sets of deep breaths.
- Nutrition – our nervous system is very sensitive, so any stimulates, i.e. Sugar, Coffee, Alcohol is a big no, and certain medications don’t react well with us. When we absorb them, the effects are times 100%, and by the way we are drawn to this stimulates like a magnet.
- Exercise – It releases good endorphins and I get rid of my excess energy and that is one time that my brain does switch off.
- Sleep, we need time to shut down. Because our brains are working at a Ferrari speed, we need to rest that brain to be able to manage the next day, it is my way of recharging my battery to be able to manage my day at an optimal level.
- Meditation, what we call Mind Holidays at The Kids Life Studio®, in the morning and evening, it helps us to calm our minds down.
- Mindfulness and being taught how to manage our thoughts, one at a time.
- Good self-talk, what we call Zeal talk at The Kids Life Studio® I say good supporting affirmations to encourage me to do the difficult tasks and stay focused. I am my own cheerleader, and N.B. when I do something super well I congratulate myself.
- Time management – is the process of organizing and planning how to divide your time between specific activities. Good time management enables you to work smarter – not harder – so that you get more done in less time.
At Mighty Minds Life Coaching, I work with children in a fun and interactive way. They learn to love life no matter what is thrown their way, they feel equipped to deal with life because they are given tools to navigate their life’s. We lay a strong foundation with tools to assist them making good choices, so they can lead positive lives.